Another blog from the Acculturis Desk. If you have or are an International student going to Indianapolis US to study, Acculturis provides college Student Services for International and domestic students. Check us out at: acculturis.us.
I’m not sure how many of this audience have read the Dune series. The blog title is paraphrased from the book series. Here’s the full quote if you are interested: “I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little death that brings total obliteration.” Equally good and important, just too long for a blog title.
Pink elephants are much too cliché for this subject and not
that interesting in the current climate we find ourselves in, so today, I want
to discuss the lime green polka-dotted meerkat in the room: Fear. Specifically,
the fear that is absolutely running rampant in the US around immigration,
students, and Visa’s and how the media is not your friend.
Every time I pick up my phone, I see a new piece of bad news
for International Students headed to the US. And that’s in India – I cannot
imagine with the news looks like in the US. People’s educations, careers, and
futures are casually being tossed around like toffees and trash. It must be a
truly terrifying time for students who have put at least 12 years into
preparing themselves to go for higher education abroad, only to have that possibility
start looking like a far-away dream and not a possibility.
When I feel afraid, I get angry – really angry. After the
anger fades, I turn very strategic; looking up data points, looking for
loopholes or ways forward, or how to manage the damage if options don’t present
themselves. I imagine that many students have spent long nights tossing and
turning as their minds engage in mental gymnastics.
My college-aged daughter recently told me that everyone
in the US is afraid – and I saw it too when I went home last time; they’re
terrified. So why in the world are we all so afraid? 1. The most obvious answer
to this (I see your eyes rolling from here!) is that it is a very uncertain and
frightening time for everyone. 2. The
media is actively working to scare you. Fight me, this is a fact. 3. When we
have outcomes that have big stakes attached to them, anything threatening can
feel scarier than small things.
Fear serves as a useful tool, evolutionarily, for us to
sense when there’s something dangerous. However, our bodies sometimes lie or
exaggerate; we feel things to be more dangerous than they actually are. Fear
also tends to stop us from trying, expanding, and reaching higher. Coming to
the US from a different country to study is indeed a very high goal to have – traveling
and expanding in that way, in any country, for that matter.
So what do we do to control the fear that makes our hearts
race as we consider a very unsettled future? Everyone will have his/her/their
own strategies to managing fear, but here are some that we recommend:
1.
Be knowledgeable about Visas/OPT work/H1Bs/immigration
issues through reputable agencies or your educational institution. The same
way we don’t consult Dr. Google when we’re sick (or at least we shouldn’t), we also
shouldn’t turn on the news, or worse read random “news” article pop ups on our
phones. They’re over alarmist, not necessarily up-to-date, and meant to provoke
a reaction, not give accurate information.
2.
Have a backup Plan. It may be your dream
to go to school in the US for any number of reasons. If that is not possible, ensure
you are actively working towards giving yourself other options. Yes, it might
be disappointing in the short term, but unplanned twists and resulting altered paths
in life can be wonderful.
3.
Continue to build your community and friends.
Find others in your same or similar boats and maintain connections – they will
tide you over in difficult times.
4.
Find agencies or helping resources you can
plug into. Acculturis can’t make the US stop being scary or change the tide
of political nonsense going on, but we can and do work on fostering cross-cultural
communities and helping people with whatever issues they face as students.
5.
Reassure yourself that this, too, shall pass.
Empires, political systems, public opinion – as many Midwestern Grandmothers
have said for time immemorial, this too shall pass. Just because it looks bad
now doesn’t mean that it will last forever.
6.
Pay no attention to the angry, old, orange
man behind the curtain and work on yourself development. Seriously – it’s
better to ignore the politicians and political environment altogether, aside
from your Visa/immigration requirements. Your 20s are a time of intense
personal growth and development, and no one can take that away except you. Be
excellent and grow no matter what’s going on.
I hope this post helps alleviate some of your fears. It’s an
uncertain time, but we shall persist and push through. Since today’s post was quote-heavy,
please drop us a comment on your favourite quote or your best way to manage
fear. Stay fearless, my friends.
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